How Many Birthday Party Attendees is the "Right" Number

Like so many things in life, the honest answer to this one is "it depends". I know. So deeply unsatisfying.

There's the "invite the same number of kids as your kid's age". Then there's the "if you are inviting some kids in the class, invite everyone so no one feels left out" rule. Hmmm. Are you noticing that these rules contradict each other?

I'm not big on rules anyway but if I have a rule, it's this: know your kid and know yourself. Basically, you have two huge variables to consider. What can your kid handle and what can you handle? If you both happen to be extroverts whose motto is "the more the merrier", then I say go for it. Invite everyone and let the wild rumpus begin.

If one or both of you actually prefers a more intimate affair, let that dictate your number of invitees. Some kids love inviting 1 or 2 close friends and having a special experience that is relaxed and low key.

So, forget the "rules". Focus on what will bring your child and you the most happiness and do that.